And yet you blew it once again. You hate it, don’t you? You feel like this whole thing sucks. Fair enough!
But we’ve all been there. That competitive spirit of yours is a feeble echo of our dynamic (sometimes even merciless) society, and we all strive to cultivate this part of our nature. Most of us define losing as a failure, where failure means, to some extent, being weak and vulnerable. Yet, our society doesn’t tolerate weakness. That explains why we might be so concerned about winning.
Well, no one starts a board game with their friends thinking, “Oh, boy, I’m so eager to lose again.” It just doesn’t feel good when you lose. Sometimes it can be even frustrating, especially if it happens several times in a row due to bad luck or a small miscalculation in your strategy. In some games, it might go beyond good luck; it is rather about being able to put your skills and plan in practice, where one tiny miscalculation might lead to a fiasco.
But do not go so hard on yourself! Most games are designed in such a way that someone eventually loses. As they say, “Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.” However, there is one valuable lesson you have to learn: if you happen to lose, you need to act as if you are a real winner.
So here are seven excellent tips for mastering the art of losing.
1. Focus on Your Strengths
Do not dwell on the past, looking for excuses for why you lost. If only I had pulled card X! None of this would’ve happened unless I remembered Y rule. X move was a mistake. Does any of this sound familiar to you? Well, these are the most common thoughts that would cross your mind after losing a game.
But why not look at the bright side of this? Instead of blaming yourself and being pathetic in front of other players, try to focus on your success. What was something that you’ve learned? What smart strategy helped you get one step closer to winning?
2. Point Out the Strengths of Other Players
Do not be too arrogant either. Pointing out other players’ weaknesses isn’t the right choice for someone who strives to be a genuine winner. This gesture won’t make you feel greater anyways. Instead, you might want to compliment your friends. We bet they have made some noteworthy strategic moves during gameplay. Do not hesitate to point out their outstanding skills. Let other players know that you admire them, and watch them do the same to you.
3. Learn From Your Experience
It is the lesson you learn that makes failure so valuable. Give yourself some time for self-reflection. Think of ways to improve your strategy and alternative plans. What can you do to play better next time? At first glance, losing might seem a bad experience. However, you can increase the odds of winning simply by not making the same mistakes over and over again.
4. Celebrate Winner’s Success
Being opponents within a game doesn’t mean you have to be hostile to your friends in real life. Whatever happens in the game stays in the game. Well, losing a game might push players to do crazy things, and your squad might enjoy some ruthless inside jokes, but you need to know when to stop. Winners do not deserve a terrible attitude, but rather sincere congratulations. Celebrate their success together – this certainly will overload your gathering with lots of fun and excitement. Tell that you’ve met a match and that their victory was fair and square.
5. Don’t Be Too Luck-Oriented
Some board games are based on pure luck. Be it a number on your dice, a treasure card, or a fantastic ability to be in the right place at the right time – all of this doesn’t require strategically smart moves to win. In general, this allows players with a different skillset to enjoy the ups of gameplay. With this in mind, sometimes you will rise to the top, sometimes you won’t. So don’t focus too much on the luck elements, unless you want to end up getting stressed. After all, it’s the process itself that all of you should enjoy. If you came up with some of the best strategies throughout the game, you did a great job, stay positive about that!
6. Winning Isn’t the Only Thing That Matters
The board is set, and the game begins. At this point, you need to realize that your opponents won’t waste their talents to let others win. This is the natural part of the process. It is a competitive environment that encourages each player to pull off smart moves to maintain balance. Would it be fun to play if everyone was discouraged from winning?
However, you don’t need to be obsessed with winning. It shouldn’t be the only way to enjoy the gameplay. Practice your strategy, improve your skills, do right calculations; in general, learn to do your best, not just win.
7. Let Your Frustration Out
I’ll repeat myself, losing is frustrating for a number of reasons. Yeah, you can’t stand it, you think that life is unfair to you! Well, it’s tough to accept that you can’t beat ‘em all. And throughout this blog post, we emphasized that it would be foolish of you to hurt other players’ feelings and ruin the mood while you’re infuriated. But keeping your emotions would be unwise too, wouldn’t it? Certainly, you don’t necessarily need to punch a hole in the wall. What you might want to do is take a short break, get a refreshing drink, and turn on your favorite playlist, if you get too emotional. Try to communicate your feelings in a humorous way. It’s just the right time to put your jokes into play. Dare we say, you’ll find the power of humor surprisingly helpful!